It is the realization of the individual's responsibility, which he cannot assume without realizing his own strengths. By making him aware of how he makes himself sick, we give him the realization that he can also make himself well. We show him what he is doing. He may not like it because he doesn't want to feel responsible for what he is doing; but he can't escape eventually from finding out that not his emotions, his complexes, his nature, his constitution, nor even his parents are responsible, but he, himself; and only he, not they, can save himself. In my mind, such realization implies becoming a free person. Realizing the tremendous power which we have, we know that we can make ourselves well and sick, that we can play weak when it suits our purposes and play strong when we prefer to do so. We can create our own fears for whatever advantages may lie in withdrawal, or for putting others in our service; or we can free ourselves of our fears. This kind of reorientation is the effect of all therapeutic efforts. It is a moral rehabilitation, a spiritual one.
Rudolf Dreikurs
Reflecting and validating feelings is not empathy. Nor does it help, other than convincing yourself of being right. This is more for the therapist to be liked and get a good review, than helping the client improve his or her relationships.
Genuine empathy provides you with the realization of how you see yourself, others, and the world.